The idea of becoming a single mum by choice has been circling around in my brain for some time. It’s felt near on impossible to reach a final decision though. After all, deciding to have a(nother) child can’t be answered with a pros and cons list. Such a list would collapse under the weight of all the cons (screaming, lack of…
Single Motherhood
The Unwanted Guest
Bounce, bounce, bounce, goes the ball. Hitting the patio, over and over again. It’s not me. It’s not my son. Despite it being the hottest day of the year so far, we are locked up, inside the house. “You’re clever and intelligent but sometimes you do stupid things. Don’t do the stupid thing today.” The ball…
I Can’t Control My Child: The Secret of Motherhood
It’s every parent’s nightmare isn’t it – a tearaway kid – but if I’m honest, I can’t control my child. I often find myself worrying what others think about my lack of parental control. I’m sure it’s a fear of mums everywhere, but sometimes I worry that, as a single mum, the judging will flow more…
Thinking About Becoming A Single Mum By Choice
I’m a divorced mum to an only child, it’s a far cry from the life I had imagined for myself: four children and a partner to boot was how it was supposed to end. It only takes an innocent photo of friends’ children playing and bickering (oh yes, I’m realistic) to set my womb on fire.…
Everyone Hates Me
“Everyone hates me,” I sobbed through the phone. It was 11pm on Sunday evening and I’d called my mum because, let’s face it, who else can you call at 11pm when you’re a blubbering mess*. “Don’t be stupid” she said. It didn’t help. As I write this I want to say I didn’t used to…
Single Mum Dating: The Ups and Downs
I’m a single mum dating and life couldn’t be better. I opened the door quietly, I didn’t want to wake the babysitter my dad. It was a Saturday at 3am, it was surprising enough that I was awake for a reason other than a toddler jumping on my head, let alone the reason being that I was returning…
The Why Phase With My Toddler
We’ve been in grips of the why phase for some time now. “Why didn’t we run for the bus?” “Why have you got lines on your face?” “Why don’t some people have beds?” “Why did I wear a skirt?” “Why is daddy ill?” “Why do you want to go to bed?” These are just some…
The Best Bits of Being A Single Mum
There’s an abundance of posts telling us about the challenges of being a single mum, I should know, I’ve written a fair few of them. I’ve been biding my time to write this post, waiting until the list was long enough; waiting until the feelings were true enough. Until I really could tell you what…
Single Parent Support
Like most, I found becomming a single parent isolating and challenging. The best advice I received was to find a single-mum-best-friend locally. But how? I was going through a divorce – my most important connection had failed – the idea of making new ones felt impossible. I wish I’d known how to connect with the single…
Muvvahood A Review
Muvvahood sucks you in. Just as you think your emotions will end up shattered on the floor, the hope of single motherhood shines through. “When he laughs, the world feels right.” Muvvahood was researched and written by Libby Liburd over the course of a year. As a performer Libby has a rare skill; you can hear the…