We probably all know someone who is divorced and no doubt we think it sounds sad and difficult, especially where kids are involved, but what does it actually feel like? Here is my take, as a divorced mum of a toddler. 1. I feel like a fool. How could I have made such a bad…
Divorce
Missing in Action: Mental Health and My Son’s First Years
Trigger warning – this post talks quite openly about mental health and thoughts of self-harming, if you are yourself struggling with similar issues there are links to support groups at the bottom. The first two years of my son’s life have been incredibly hard. It’s not been the parenting parts per se (though they have…
Single Mum to an Only Child: Just The Two Of Us
I got overwhelmed on my way home from work today. It happens sometimes. That drowning feeling. That moment when I realise this is my life and, for the moment at least, it‘s impossible to imagine an alternative version. Growing up I believed I’d have a large family, a supportive husband and a lovely home. This…
That Moment When You See Your Ex’s Wedding Photo
I’d convinced myself that I was OK with him remarrying. That I didn’t give a shit. And I don’t, give a shit that is, in many ways. But to see how he’s moved on. To see how he has a new life. One that involves happiness, even if that’s not the only story. When I…
The Dating Game
It’s that time of year again, love and romance is all around. So I thought I’d share with you my recent dating journey. I say journey; it’s more like an old, clapped out car, stalling as it tries to get up a hill. I’m internet dating (is there any other kind of dating for single mums…
Separation – Why Us?
You often hear people say that a new baby puts a strain on a marriage, so I guess you won’t be surprised to hear that approximately 20% of relationships end in separation following the arrival of a baby*. But why do some survive and others not? I used to put it down to attitude. Do…